Do you know why your hamper is where it is? I don’t. It’s probably there because that’s where it fit. It’s definitely not there because that’s where I get undressed. And it’s only here because it’s the hamper that was handed down, no thought had ever been given to if it’s even the right hamper for the job!
Thinking about how I go about my day, how I interact with my space, is not something I am used to doing. But it makes perfect sense. My laundry basket is tucked away in a corner next to my bed, but my pajamas are in the walk in closet on the other side of the room. What happens? I get a pile of dirty laundry in the closet! There’s a book that says if you aren’t doing something that you say you want or need to do, make it 20 seconds easier and see what changes. Remove a barrier and happiness increases. Add an incentive (carrot) to do what is needed to address the barrier.
So if I don’t want dirty clothes piling up, how do I make it easier to put them in the laundry? Move the laundry basket to the closet so it is close by when dressing.
Now, I have a specific tactic that will help me answer the joy question. I don’t think the joy question is quite enough to get to where I want to be. Keeping what I love isn’t enough, “love” gets loosely defined, “I love this because it fits and extends the time between laundry” isn’t what she meant.
Now, if I add the new incentive to the question, the process is easier. Combine, “do I love this” with the idea that if I don’t, I am rewarded with space for the laundry basket.